When he signed up for Ok Cupid in 2013, he was in Singapore but began using it more frequently when he moved to Portland, Ore., the following year.
It was around then that he saw Ok Cupid’s data on race and attraction.
Statistically, Asian men rank lowest compared to other men when it comes to receiving matches and messages from women on dating sites.
While there are different theories for the reasoning, the clients I work with all agree with the premise of not being able to fit the hyper-masculine culture perpetuated by Western society.
Some are completely outlandish and some are, well, a little more spot on. Census Bureau, 40% of Asian females will marry a non-Asian male, whereas 20% of Asian males will marry a non-Asian female. In fact, there’s even a website which acts as a forum for asian men reclaiming their “asianalitiy” – and they are pissed that their potential asian wives are shacking up with non-asians.And because of this, sometimes, there is some truth to the cultural differences of people raised with diverse upbringings. When the dinner cheque arrives at the table, the Asian guy will swoop in like a properly trained ninja and attack the dinner cheque before you can even do that “reach” for your wallet. When it comes to alcohol consumption, according to research, the ‘Asian Flush’ occurs due to a deficiency in an enzyme called aldehyde dehydrogenase, which is part of a vital process that digests alcohol.So I’m here today to dispel (or confirm) some of those myths, but only according to my own experience. This swift technique is an ancient move passed on by his ancestors – a learned behavior through many many years watching his parents challenge their opponents to who gets to the cheque first. Headache, red flushing, even itchiness will occur after a few sips of alcohol. Many asians brought up in a traditional upbringing (both men and women) choose to live at home with their parents until they get married.Before you make any accusations of me making sweeping generalizations, note that my points here are completely biased according to my own sample size. White guys are much more laid back and are happy to carry on the conversation for another 30 minutes while the check is laying on the table; some are even willing to go dutch to further showcase their support towards gender equality. But, enzyme or no enzyme, don’t think this will deter an asian guy from schooling you in a drinking game though. Asian culture emphasizes family and collectivity, so it is quite the norm to take care of your parents while living under the same roof. There are many behaviours that are emphasized in a traditional asian culture.Challenge him to a game of Pai Gow or Big 2 and he’ll drink you under the table. Also, living with a romantic partner pre-marriage is generally looked down upon, which is another reason why many asians wait until marriage to move out. With a big emphasis on “taking care” of those around you.